I’ve been thinking a lot about changes lately.
Some career opportunities have come up and so a rehaul was due.
A few years ago, I made a huge change. I left the comfort of my full-time job in mental health, to go to a part-time job in the medical field. I needed to switch gears. And the leftover time would allow me to pursue my business idea and some extras.
This was a brilliant move!
Then things started to feel a little stale. Burlesque, getaways and fitness made things a bit exciting and now we’re back to a feeling a bit stagnant.
So, I took a leap of faith on some opportunities that happened to come my way. And, it’s official: I’m back full-time in mental health!
Overall, this is a good move for me and my future. Then why do I feel this anxiety, which is overwhelming at times?
Did you know that stress is multidimensional?It affects our cognitive, physical, behavioural and social dimensions.
- have a positive (eustress) and/or negative (distress) nature,
- have a time frame: acute or chronic (or even acute on chronic),
- be planned or unexpected.
There are pros and cons to everything. And that’s okay. It’s in how you process it and to find appropriate supports.
For me, the CBT approach works best. I know that I ruminate in my feelings like a dog rolls around in a rotting carcass**. My previous negative experiences roll into it. And all these feelings become overwhelming. They overwhelm my logic and I sink farther into the well. I also have a tendency to bottle it all up°.
What works for me
- I recognize there’s a problem°°,
- I label my feelings and thought distortions,
- I use logic to break my thought cycles,
- I talk it out with a trusted support person.
If you are new to CBT or its tenets don’t quite resonate, N&K encourage you to research different techniques. And then to get appropriate support.
Here is a list of clickable resources to get you N&Kers started:
Bounceback: Reclaim Your Health (depression)
Brene Brown podcasts and books
*Winning a competition can be positive. But, there can be negatives too such as feeling more pressure to win the next comp and feeling like the need to train harder. But maybe you don’t have the resources or social support for this.
*An example of acute on chronic is: having a large distressing debt and then all of a sudden, my car breaks down. I don’t have the money to fix it but I need my car to get to work to help pay down the debt.
**Except I don’t want to roll around in it.
°Not sure why I bottled shit up. It’s probably rooted in not being able to trust. But I’ve learned that I have lots of supportive people around, and I can trust them.
°°It took me a long time to realize that feelings are not fact. Feelings can be overwhelming. There are a lot of tools to help me manage. And I know I can manage when I recognize there’s an issue.